Are You Okay?

“Are you okay?”  were the first words that came out of my Dad’s mouth when I told him I wrecked his truck. Followed by, “We’ll talk about it when I get home.” It was the summer before my Senior year in High School and I had borrowed my Dad’s truck to go on a job […]

What’s YOUR Superpower?

Yes, I still believe in super heroes! In a quick straw poll of the members of my household on what superpower they would want if given the opportunity, I was quite surprised with the answers. I had two that wanted to fly, one that wanted to be invisible, one that wanted to be able to […]

Have a Donut Policy

WHAT!?  Why didn’t I know this?  My door is always open! Recently, I heard from a former student and he relayed to me how, in a staff meeting, his new boss let the staff know he had an open door policy.   The boss then explained the parameters of the policy, “I have an open door […]

Mistakes Leaders Make

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched it, but it always makes me laugh.  It could be that I’ve always been a John Cusack fan or that the scenes in the movie take me straight back to the mid-80’s (when I had long hair and no bald spot).  Regardless of when “Hot Tub […]

Change Your Attitude and Change Your Life

I reached my hotel room at 1AM and wondered what the next day was going to hold for me. It had been the end of an extremely long day. I had left Milwaukee that morning on (what I thought) was going to be a short flight to Oklahoma City to work with veterans that had […]

Teamwork Is ALL About ME!!

Whenever I teach a class or share my thoughts with an audience on teamwork, I always give the old adage of “There’s no ‘I’ or ‘U’ in the word TEAM.” Just like clockwork, as if drawn by the laws of physics, someone will shout out, “Yeah, but there is a ‘ME’!” I then enthusiastically reply, […]

Millennials: Entitlement or Positive Expectation?

“I’ll be running that place in a few weeks!” was my daughter, Victoria’s, near immediate response after she got her first job at Marshall’s.  Within a few weeks after starting there, she knew it was going to be a horse of a different color. I have adult children.  They are all Millennials.  They weren’t brought […]

Do Ask, Do Tell!

Dave knew that when he told me I couldn’t do something, I’d work even harder to prove that I could do it.  He was a great supervisor.  It was easy for him to motivate me because we were cut from the same cloth.  That was lucky for Dave, it worked.  Most new leaders fall into […]

Size Matters!

If you had met Captain Pat on the street, you would never have guessed that he was an officer in the Navy or that he was responsible for nearly 10,000 people and millions of dollars of in Navy assets. He always had shaving cream behind his ear, appeared to comb his hair with a rock, […]


I was a little nervous.  It was, after all, my first periodic evaluation as a new officer.  I knew that I had been working hard, taking care of my people and working to move the mission forward but, in the back of my head, questioned if I had done enough.  I walked into my Commanding […]