How Do You Persuade Your Boss?

“The key for any speaker is to establish his own point of view for the audience, so they can see the game through his eyes.” -Ronald Reagan

 

“Want to bet on it?”  I said wryly as I put the folder in front of my boss.

He knew that when those words came out of my mouth I had already researched the problem and I was giving him the best possible solution to the problem.  He would then mumble a bit about how things had probably changed (to save face) and then acquiesce to what I was asking him to do.

We’ve all had bosses that could be a little hard headed.  I know I have.  In some of those instances I often have thought, “things would just go so much smoother if he just listened to me.”  Have you felt the same?

Leading up is nothing new.  We all have bosses and it’s our charge to take good care of them and help them make the best decisions possible.  So, what do you do with a boss that won’t listen and thinks his way is the only way?  You have to go a little old school and persuade them the way Aristotle would recommend.

The Greek philosopher, Aristotle, said there were three basic modes of persuasion (his rhetorical appeals) that could help move people to where you want them to be.  I have found them to be a great baseline in getting what is needed done when my boss needs to be lead.

Mode One:  Ethos:  Ethos when used as a mode of persuasion is based on the credibility of the speaker and his/her personal character.  How do we build credibility?

  • Know your stuff.  Read, research, ask questions and have a 360 degree view of what’s going on.  Don’t just know your job, know how it all connects.
  • Connect people with people; people and processes; and people and things.  Be a resource.
  • Say what you mean and mean what you say.

When you go to your boss and consistently know, he’ll know you know and will start coming to you.

Mode Two:  Logos:  Logos when used as a mode of persuasion is based on the logic of the case presented.  How do we show logic?

  • Be clear and give the facts when you are presenting the case.
  • Map out the “logic train” of how you got to where you’re at.  If you are at “D” and you started at “A”, show how “B and C” factored in.  If you have charts, graphs, and numbers…use them.
  • Separate yourself from the issue, if necessary.

It’s hard to argue with cold, hard facts.  If you can go to your boss with an arsenal of evidence to support your case and a clear path on how you got there, it makes it easier to weigh things on your side.

Mode Three:  Pathos:  Pathos is used as a mode of persuasion when we are able to stir some kind of emotion in the person we’re talking to.  Emotion can be in any range (fear, empathy, justice, etc).  How do we stir some emotion?

  • Connect on a personal level with your boss.  Don’t start with what you want, start with something personal.
  • Show your own emotion as it pertains to what is needed.  Emotions are contagious.  If you feel strongly, you can pass that emotion on.
  • Share a story to elicit an emotional response.

Emotions are powerful.  Use them wisely and your boss can be won over without the facts.

Any one of these can work.  They work by themselves but are much more effective when you can couple them together (or use all three at once).   Leading up requires a strategy.  Know your stuff, give your boss the facts and don’t be afraid to show the emotion required to push him over to your side.

If, after doing your best to persuade and lead up, your boss still isn’t convinced at least you know you did your best to cover him and the team.

What’s your best persuasion tip?  SHOUT IT OUT!  I’d love to learn from you!

 

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